I've recently had an epiphany - Fabcebook is stupid.
I used to be addicted to Facebook. Constantly checking it to see what witty things my "friends" have been saying, what they have been doing and the such.
But I have recently come to the conclusion that I don't give a shit.
Most of the people I have friended are really not my friends. They are people I know who I might have given a shit about.
My definition of friend is something rather serious. A friend - to me - is someone who I can confide in. Someone I can be bitchy with, someone who I can reveal my true self.
I am a bitch.
I am fine with that.
I am pessimistic.
I am fine with that.
I am critical.
I am fine with that.
But finding other people I can truly be myself with and not some fakey "Everything is great! Everything smells like roses!" is rather hard to do.
I can be that way with HB. He likes me when I keep it real. And I can do that with about five or six of my "friends" on FB. But the rest...well.....
I do like to get along to get along, but sometimes I just want to be negative and not put on a happy face when I am feeling depressed or anxious.
I recently had a "Friend Pageant" with the people I have friended.
I had to ask myself each of the following questions about each person:
1. Do I give a shit about this person?
2. Have I spoken to this person in the last six weeks?
3. Does this person enrich my life or take away from it?
4. Would I be sad to see this person go?
If they could pass these questions, then they stayed. Otherwise they got the axe.
If that seems brutal or self-involved then that is too bad. Like Sweet Brown, I ain't got time for that.
Jim
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