Thursday, April 4, 2013

Stupid Facebook




I've recently had an epiphany - Fabcebook is stupid.

I used to be addicted to Facebook. Constantly checking it to see what witty things my "friends" have been saying, what they have been doing and the such.

But I have recently come to the conclusion that I don't give a shit.

Most of the people I have friended are really not my friends. They are people I know who I might have given a shit about.

My definition of friend is something rather serious. A friend - to me - is someone who I can confide in. Someone I can be bitchy with, someone who I can reveal my true self.

I am a bitch.

I am fine with that.

I am pessimistic.

I am fine with that.

I am critical.

I am fine with that.

But finding other people I can truly be myself with and not some fakey "Everything is great! Everything smells like roses!" is rather hard to do.

I can be that way with HB. He likes me when I keep it real. And I can do that with about five or six of my "friends" on FB. But the rest...well.....

I do like to get along to get along, but sometimes I just want to be negative and not put on a happy face when I am feeling depressed or anxious.

I recently had a "Friend Pageant" with the people I have friended.

I had to ask myself each of the following questions about each person:

1. Do I give a shit about this person?
2. Have I spoken to this person in the last six weeks?
3. Does this person enrich my life or take away from it?
4. Would I be sad to see this person go?

If they could pass these questions, then they stayed. Otherwise they got the axe.

If that seems brutal or self-involved then that is too bad. Like Sweet Brown, I ain't got time for that.



Much love,

Jim